A life partnership, without the romance.
Lavinder connects people who want to build a platonic partnership: marriage, co-parenting, a shared home. Based on clear expectations, in a discreet space.
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We only ask for your email. It is never linked to a profile. Closed beta opening in Paris.
Conversations that go somewhere.
No endless swiping. Every profile is picked for what it is looking for, and every chat has a purpose.
Say what you’re looking for
Kids, living arrangements, finances, public image, timeline. Your deal-breakers come first.
Meet compatible profiles
A short daily selection and at most five active conversations, so you focus on the people who matter.
Actually talk
A conversation lasts 48 hours. At 20 messages exchanged on both sides, it becomes permanent. Outside contact details are shared only if you both agree.
The app, screen by screen.
A profile built on your expectations, a short selection, a conversation that moves forward. Interface preview, fictional content.
My expectations
Mark what is non-negotiable.
Yes, 1 or 2Deal-breaker
Separate bedroomsDeal-breaker
Separate accountsFlexible
Introduced to familyFlexible
12 to 18 monthsFlexible
Today’s picks
3 compatible profiles today.
Conversation
A partnership, not a romance.
Sharing a home, raising a child, supporting each other every day. What matters is that you want the same thing, and say so before you commit.
Built to expose nothing.
Lavinder is under construction. Here is what we commit to from day one.
Sign up without email or phone number
A pseudonym is enough. No legal name is stored.
End-to-end encrypted messages
We cannot read your conversations.
An app that keeps a low profile
Neutral name and icon, passcode lock, notifications without content.
What expires disappears
A conversation that ends is erased from the server and from the device.
We do not promise absolute anonymity: a screenshot is still possible. We explain the limits rather than hide them.
Be there when we open.
Spots open in waves, city by city, so every profile finds enough people nearby.